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I originally had a different idea for tonight’s post but due to recent circumstances I felt a lot more moved to make a different post in honor of a death in our family, so bare with me at my slapdash efforts to throw this together with no planning, because this one comes straight from the heart.
Now don’t get me wrong, I love my children dearly. But life is life, and for the past few days like every other momma out there, I have been stressing the little things. My minivan broke down. After being without a car for almost a week we spent 8 hours sitting at a dealership with a 3 year old and an 8 year old (which I honestly think is more painful than pulling teeth) trying to buy a new Ford Flex (which is amazing by the way! But more on that later). After getting the new vehicle we find out there was an issue with our trade-in (great!) And to top it off school has been canceled all week due to bad weather, so 9 months pregnant I’m home, exhausted, and tackling 4 children who I genuinely believe are actually just hungry little tornados in disguise. By yesterday night I was a trembling hormonal wreck of a woman.
And then we got the call…
“She has passed away” quietly said the voice on the other end of the phone with a distinct echo of heart ache… and all of a sudden every bad stressor and feeling that has been hanging over my head for the past 5 days washed away like mud in a rain storm.
You see, while I had spent the week worrying over things that felt important, I was actually just wasting time. And not only was I wasting time, I was passive aggressively taking out my stress on everyone around me. And yes, while I accept that is just part of human nature and we are all guilty of this crime from time to time, a little bit of perspective goes a long way.
Now I’m not saying go out and do something crazy, nothing life changing, or dangerous. What I am saying is quite the opposite. Focus on the little things.
Ladies (and gents) put down your smartphones, tablets or computers and go hug your children, right now… seriously.. ill wait..
Okay.. are you back?
Great! Don’t you feel better already?
If I have learnt anything from this experience, it is that life is short. So plan a trip with your kids. Take them to the park. Pull out some old board games. Make a mess. Don’t stress the little stuff. Take a genuine interest in what your child is saying. Hug them tight. Snuggle and watch a movie. It is so easy in life to overlook the fact that messes can be cleaned, money comes and goes, and all the little annoyances that come with being a parent can be overlooked when you really focus your attention on the things that matter.
I guess the moral of my story here folks, is that time moves by us so fast. Life is made up of little moments, and these little moments make memories, and one day memories will be all we and our children have left. But all is not lost, because in these memories we will live on forever in the hearts and minds of our loved ones. So take every chance you can get while you still have it, because one day… that chance will be lost forever.
Dear reader, today I employ you with a challenge (one that I plan to uphold myself). Make a list of 10 things you want to do with your family, and go out and do them! I know life is busy, work is stressful, bills pile up and so do the dishes, but how much does that stuff really matter in the bigger picture of life? Please feel free to go ahead and leave me a comment with your thoughts and ideas on how you plan to make new memories with your children, and stay tuned to follow this journey with me as I embark on a new chapter of memory making with my children.