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Welcome Payton Rose

I know I have not posted in a little while, but I promise dear reader that I have a valid reason.

On January 12th 2018 at 8.05am, we had the blessing of welcoming the very latest (6lb 9oz) addition to our beautifully blended family into the world.. Little Miss Payton Rose.

There is nothing in this universe greater than the joy of motherhood. It is the most exhilarating, exhausting and down right exciting experience in the world.

So in the baby spirit, stay tuned for some fun sized, baby related, eye candy articles coming your way soon!

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Embracing Motherhood

For 45 minuets I fought with my 3 year old tonight trying to get him into bed. It was the usual routine, nothing out of the ordinary, if anything we had quite a pleasant day. But as quick as the weather changes, so does my sons mood. After my failed attempts to wrestle him into his Spider-Man pjs while he screamed for his daddy, I finally gave up. Worn out, broken, defeated by the very life that I had created. He had won. I handed him his tablet, tucked him under the covers and walked out under a cloud of defeat as I tried not to stumble over the minefield of monster trucks and hot wheels that lined my path. I felt like a lousy mom. Tonight, I had failed.

Or had I? You see, I constantly find that I am comparing myself to other moms. I drop my children off in the mornings and watch the hordes of perfectly braided hairstyles and color coordinated outfits flock through the school doors and wonder to myself, how do they do it? I tried the old routine of getting up hours before school starts in the hopes of being a picture perfect family, eating breakfast quietly in the kitchen, kissing my husband goodbye as he happily waltzes out of the door on his way to work, but the fantasy could not be farther from the reality.

My kids aren’t perfect and neither am I. My son hasn’t had a haircut in 6 months, not because he doesn’t need one.. because I don’t want to fight him as he screams and squirms his way out of the salon chair. Sometimes I let my kids eat corn dogs and cookies for dinner, because I am too tired to stand in the kitchen for an hour and cook. I am tired, sore, overworked and under appreciated. No my house isn’t always clean and my kids are probably a day over due for a bath, but you know what moms.. that’s okay, because they are happy, healthy, fed, sheltered and most importantly.. loved. Stop folding under the social pressure of society and comparing yourself to all the others. So what if their kid sold more Girl Scout cookies? Who cares if the dishes sit in the sink just one day longer. It happens!

We need to stop beating ourselves up and rejoice in motherhood! Breath for a little while and let it go. We constantly find ourselves running around like overworked robots expected to achieve miracles when most of us are running on just coffee and love. Give yourself a break. Cut yourself some slack. And enjoy motherhood while it lasts.

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​DIY No Sew Baby Crib Dust Ruffle (For the lazy momma with no time)

Today I decided to try my hand at some crafts! Here is my tutorial for a DIY no sew baby crib dust ruffle (but you can apply it to any kind of bed that you like!)

What you will need:
-Fabric (whatever kind you like. I had a bunch of fabric left over from my baby shower, so I decided to use that.)
-Scissors
And that’s it! (See, I told you it was easy!)

Time consumed: About 30 mins.

Step 1: Measure out your crib from the bottom of the mattress to the floor, as well as the length of the crib.

Step 2: Cut a piece of ribbon or fabric that spans the length of the sides of the crib.

Step 3: Start cutting strips of fabric. I used both mesh and a sheet of fabric I had left over from my baby shower decorations.

Step 4: Start tying the fabric to the long piece of ribbon/fabric that is sized to the length of the bed.

Step 5: Attach each end of the length of fabric/ribbon to either corner of the bottom of the crib base.

Step 6: Fan out the fabric evenly and tuck between the crib base and the crib sides.

Step 7: Repeat on all 4 sides.

Have you tried this before? Are you thinking of trying it for yourself? Do you have any hints or tips to make it better? Leave a comment below and let me know!

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Don’t sweat the little things…

                                               
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I originally had a different idea for tonight’s post but due to recent circumstances I felt a lot more moved to make a different post in honor of a death in our family, so bare with me at my slapdash efforts to throw this together with no planning, because this one comes straight from the heart.
Now don’t get me wrong, I love my children dearly. But life is life, and for the past few days like every other momma out there, I have been stressing the little things. My minivan broke down. After being without a car for almost a week we spent 8 hours sitting at a dealership with a 3 year old and an 8 year old (which I honestly think is more painful than pulling teeth) trying to buy a new Ford Flex (which is amazing by the way! But more on that later). After getting the new vehicle we find out there was an issue with our trade-in (great!) And to top it off school has been canceled all week due to bad weather, so 9 months pregnant I’m home, exhausted, and tackling 4 children who I genuinely believe are actually just hungry little tornados in disguise. By yesterday night I was a trembling hormonal wreck of a woman. 

And then we got the call…

“She has passed away” quietly said the voice on the other end of the phone with a distinct echo of heart ache… and all of a sudden every bad stressor and feeling that has been hanging over my head for the past 5 days washed away like mud in a rain storm. 

You see, while I had spent the week worrying over things that felt important, I was actually just wasting time. And not only was I wasting time, I was passive aggressively taking out my stress on everyone around me. And yes, while I accept that is just part of human nature and we are all guilty of this crime from time to time, a little bit of perspective goes a long way.

Now I’m not saying go out and do something crazy, nothing life changing, or dangerous. What I am saying is quite the opposite. Focus on the little things.

Ladies (and gents) put down your smartphones, tablets or computers and go hug your children, right now… seriously.. ill wait..

Okay.. are you back?

Great! Don’t you feel better already? 

If I have learnt anything from this experience, it is that life is short. So plan a trip with your kids. Take them to the park. Pull out some old board games. Make a mess. Don’t stress the little stuff. Take a genuine interest in what your child is saying. Hug them tight. Snuggle and watch a movie. It is so easy in life to overlook the fact that messes can be cleaned, money comes and goes, and all the little annoyances that come with being a parent can be overlooked when you really focus your attention on the things that matter. 

I guess the moral of my story here folks, is that time moves by us so fast. Life is made up of little moments, and these little moments make memories, and one day memories will be all we and our children have left. But all is not lost, because in these memories we will live on forever in the hearts and minds of our loved ones. So take every chance you can get while you still have it, because one day… that chance will be lost forever. 

Dear reader, today I employ you with a challenge (one that I plan to uphold myself). Make a list of 10 things you want to do with your family, and go out and do them! I know life is busy, work is stressful, bills pile up and so do the dishes, but how much does that stuff really matter in the bigger picture of life? Please feel free to go ahead and leave me a comment with your thoughts and ideas on how you plan to make new memories with your children, and stay tuned to follow this journey with me as I embark on a new chapter of memory making with my children. 

                                                 

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Oh boy, Another Mom Blog

Welcome one and all to my little slice of heaven – Just Another Hot Mess Momma.

Now, Now, I know what you are thinking, “Oh boy, another mom blog, just what the internet needs

Well dear reader, let me educate you in on a little secret that I have learned over the years. In the ever raging age of technology we find thrust upon our lives, there is no better medium to support each other, than the internet. Parenting is hard, and boy do we need all the support we can get. So young moms, single moms, soccer moms, veteran moms… Moms one and all. Unite with me and join me on my never-ending, life changing, wouldn’t-give-it-up-for-a-million-dollars journey, as I delve deep into the life… of Just Another Hot Mess Momma.

A little bit about me to break the ice:

1. I am a Mom with a beautifully blended family of 7: My husband and I have 4 wonderful children, and one on the way.

2. I haven’t always been this lucky: For a long time I lived as a single working Mom in a one bedroom apartment with my son before I found my “happy ending”.

3. I love to write: Writing is a passion of mine. One that has been neglected for far too long. It is my escape on a stressful day, my sanctuary, my peace.

4. I’m not a perfect Mom: Some days I am supermom. The kids will be bathed and in bed, the house will be spotless, and 24 hours will have gone by without a temper tantrum (oh sweet mom heaven)…. Other days, not so much.

5. Being a step-mom is hard: I wont lie, it has taken a lot of work and tears to be where I am today, and I have no doubt there will be a lot more before it is all said and done.

6. But.. despite all that.. I love my kids more than anything in the world.

So ladies (and gents) hop in your minivans, fasten your seatbelts and stay tuned for more from Just Another Hot Mess Momma.

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Side note: While I have many great ideas and aspirations for this blog, I want you to enjoy reading it just as much as I enjoy writing it, so feel free to leave any and all comments below on what you would like to see next.